Ever feel like you've lost your best friend, who you married (or started dating), and he or she's been replaced by their evil twin?
Frenemy: a friend and enemy all in one person
We've all had the experience of being in a relationship with someone and feeling like we've lost connection; like they no longer see the best in us. And this can lead to often feeling misunderstood, frustrated, and down-right heartbroken.
I remember wondering when I was dating my husband, "How the HECK are we going to keep that from happening? Is it even possible?"
The answer is, "NOPE." [...]
Let's face it. We all get in funks; and so do our relationships. It's inevitable.
The trick is not to avoid funks at all costs; it's to get what it takes to rise to the occasion of the funk.
Rising to meet the funk and address it in a way that's helpful and beneficial to all can mean the difference between a few days of funk and a funk that snowballs into weeks, and months, and years.
The times when my husband and I have been FRENEMIES have challenged us to get clear about our beliefs about happiness, ourselves, and marriage; about what bothers us and triggers us; and about our wants, needs and feelings.
The more frenemy periods we had AND WORKED THROUGH the more we got strategic and really clear about ourselves, each other, and our relationship....
and when we started dealing with conflict really well the conflicts actually lead to MORE emotional intimacy...and the less we had frenemy periods.
What I know to be true is that your closest partner in life can be your greatest teacher, or your worst enemy; it all depends on how YOU choose to perceive your biggest challenges and what you do about them.
Everyone deserves to have what it takes to have happy relationships.
This is why I've created this course LOVE . SEX . KIDS - Get Your Happy Back.
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For more tips and tricks on what to do when you find yourself being frenemies with the person you want to be your friend the most watch the video below. You also get to see my dog, Cowboy ;-)
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