Let's talk chickens. I promise...this has a very related point.
A few months ago, we realized that some of our little adolescent 5-month-old chickens were roosters. My neighbor and I share a coop and she'd picked a cute breed to add to the flock that can't be sexed at birth.
Yes, we are those crazy people with backyard chickens.
We can't have roosters in our neighborhood, so we were taking a risk. But ONE out of TEN chickens is male! So we thought, we'll just get some and if we have a couple roosters we'll re-home them. No problem.
FOUR out of FIVE were roosters.
The behavioral differences started appearing. These chickens weren't socialized by other male chickens to behave this way: we'd had them since they were one day old. They were wired differently.
One obvious difference was the cockadoodledooing (you can't miss that one), but that wasn't the first difference we noticed. They walked differently, focused on different things, and would find good food and call the ladies to come over and eat. The ladies would have their heads down and butts in the air most of the day pecking at potential food and the roosters would be upright, eyes to the sky, searching for predators.
The roosters would greet us with a cute and funny dance. The dance lost all its cuteness when I found out that it was meant to convey, "Don't mess with my flock or I will fight you."
And then the mating. Ugh...cover your eyes...the mating. It's not uncommon for a rooster to mate 10-30 times each day...and it's very National Geographic...if you know what I mean: claws in the backs of the females, lost feathers, loud noises...
While looking out the window at this scene after a few days of feeling hounded for sex myself I said to my husband, "You're a rooster....you're just a rooster with some manners."
Despite the amount I've studied and researched the physiological, hormonal, and cultural differences between men and women it is so easy for me to forget these things and to judge my husband through my own physiological, hormonal, and cultural lens.
"What is wrong with him?"
Like I'm somehow superior because of my differences.
We are truly different creatures. And then, beyond that, no two roosters or hens are the same.
One well-documented difference between men and women is in the amount they desire sex. Differences in sex drive can really poison a relationship when not deeply understood. In the article below I say a whole lot more about these differences and share ONE really doable way to increase a woman's drive. If you're a woman who feels like she's lost some or all of her drive (or you're married to one) this article is for you.
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The Easiest Way to Increase a Woman's Sex Drive
And why it works.
"How often are you having sex?" is a question I ask every couple I see. I've heard every answer from, "Non-existent," to "[giggle, giggle] Ummm, OK I guess," and many times each partner has a different perspective on the same sex life.
Sexual frequency can be a barometer for how the relationship is going, but it can also be a barometer for stress levels and personal well-being.
For the sake of this article I'll be generalizing men and women based on what's most common, but I see all sorts of differences in drive that don't fit into what's most common. <--This is probably a whole other article.
What I see frequently in heterosexual relationships is that most men are trying to figure out how to have more physical intimacy and most women are trying to figure out how to have more emotional intimacy, but they're both making the same HUGE mistake...[READ MORE]
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