Hey you. Yeah you...the one avoiding the mirror. You think, "What if I shine? What if I dare greatly? What if I put it all out there and get really vulnerable and just be ME...all the time...no matter what?"
"What if he doesn't accept me? Or she doesn't like me? Or I don't get the job, or the grade, or the marriage of my dreams ends?"....if they all see who I really am. And so you shrink, and dim your light, and put yourself in the small box you think they all want you in.
But that doesn't work for very long because you outgrow this way of thinking....and the box. But it sure did feel safe and snug for a while...because you didn't have to dare at all.
It was never about him, or her, or them....accepting YOU. You're terrified that if you don't get them to fully accept you that you won't be able to accept you fully. It's a logical, but false premise. And you know it's not working because it's forcing you to contort yourself into a shape that just doesn't feel good. You don't feel well.
You're robbing the world of who you really are. You're robbing him of learning to be softer, and her of being more approachable and less judgmental. You're stagnating in a career that doesn't fit you because you've moulded yourself to it and God only knows what you could be doing and who you could be impacting in your REAL life's work.
Shrinking is always easier than growing in the short run. But I know that is NOT what you came to me for. So I'll continue to hold the space for the best, most real (cellulite, wrinkles, and frizzy hair included), version of you and expect nothing less.
In excitement for your growth and change,
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