YOUR MARRIAGE, BUT BETTER - ONLINE
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More love? More sex? More happy? Who has time with all these tiny people around? This online couples workshop led by therapist and relationship coach, Mika Ross, works to infuse your relationship with what it needs to feel better and stay better over a period of 6 months. Spend less time struggling and worrying about what to do or say next when tough conversations arise. Stop sweeping your wants and needs under the rug. Learn ninja-like relationship skills to slice through conflict quicker and make it a whole lot less scary. Stop getting stuck ...ASAP! Sleep more. Yell less.
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Hey, it's me, Mika. How do I know you can transform what's possible for your relationship?
Because I came from some of the most insidiously destructive communication patterns there are.
I very uncharacteristically threw a remote across the room (back when remotes weighed 8 pounds) at age 11 because I couldn't hear the TV over my parents arguing. My mom filed for divorce for the 2nd time soon after this. (<--read more about that here)
I was aware I wasn't born into the Cleaver family. I knew I had been trained into my beliefs about relationships from people who knew very little about the kind of marriage I wanted.
I became obsessed with relationships and what makes them work.
For years I participated in my own therapy and coaching, I got degrees in psychology and marriage and family counseling, I've researched, I've scoured spiritual and relational texts, worked my way through A Course in Miracles, attended multiple professional conferences…..
I’m SO PASSIONATE about this stuff because I turned it around…BIG TIME.
The compliments I take the most seriously are the ones I receive from my husband…because all I ever wanted was a happy and functioning family.
4 years ago he said to me, “Thank you.” We had just sat down to a not-so-spectacular dinner. I had spent this day of my maternity leave with a 5-year-old, a 3-year-old and a nursing baby. I'm willing to bet I had bodily fluids on my clothes that weren't mine. I looked at my plate confused and thought, "He can't be thanking me for this dinner." I said, “For what?!”
He replied, “For helping me be the person I've always wanted to be.”
My eyes welled with tears. This stuck with me. FOR. DAYS. I get thank you notes and testimonials from clients frequently, but this…THIS was it.
I had been so busy working on MY part in our relationship I hadn't realized the impact it had on him. He said he couldn't think of anyone’s marriage he’d rather have. I agreed.
And now you get to reap the benefits of my total obsession.
The best of what I've come across over the last 18 years I've synthesized into this life-changing program.
Cheers to you, and all I know is possible for your relationship. *Cue the Kumbaya....just kidding ;-)
Because I came from some of the most insidiously destructive communication patterns there are.
I very uncharacteristically threw a remote across the room (back when remotes weighed 8 pounds) at age 11 because I couldn't hear the TV over my parents arguing. My mom filed for divorce for the 2nd time soon after this. (<--read more about that here)
I was aware I wasn't born into the Cleaver family. I knew I had been trained into my beliefs about relationships from people who knew very little about the kind of marriage I wanted.
I became obsessed with relationships and what makes them work.
For years I participated in my own therapy and coaching, I got degrees in psychology and marriage and family counseling, I've researched, I've scoured spiritual and relational texts, worked my way through A Course in Miracles, attended multiple professional conferences…..
I’m SO PASSIONATE about this stuff because I turned it around…BIG TIME.
The compliments I take the most seriously are the ones I receive from my husband…because all I ever wanted was a happy and functioning family.
4 years ago he said to me, “Thank you.” We had just sat down to a not-so-spectacular dinner. I had spent this day of my maternity leave with a 5-year-old, a 3-year-old and a nursing baby. I'm willing to bet I had bodily fluids on my clothes that weren't mine. I looked at my plate confused and thought, "He can't be thanking me for this dinner." I said, “For what?!”
He replied, “For helping me be the person I've always wanted to be.”
My eyes welled with tears. This stuck with me. FOR. DAYS. I get thank you notes and testimonials from clients frequently, but this…THIS was it.
I had been so busy working on MY part in our relationship I hadn't realized the impact it had on him. He said he couldn't think of anyone’s marriage he’d rather have. I agreed.
And now you get to reap the benefits of my total obsession.
The best of what I've come across over the last 18 years I've synthesized into this life-changing program.
Cheers to you, and all I know is possible for your relationship. *Cue the Kumbaya....just kidding ;-)
And you might be thinking, “Yeah right.”
It feels especially impossible to imagine the joyful possibilities when you’re overwhelmed, mentally-drained, with a never-ending to-do list and this just feels like "one more thing I have to freakin’ figure out."
Where & How? I’m offering this program for YOU, yeah you…the frazzled one in the pajama pants. People who make a big and consistent commitment to work with me long-term get the biggest results. For couples this could be sessions together and individually for 3-6 months or more. Factor in kids, jobs, school, sports, workouts….the barrier for many getting the results they want is TIME.
But BIG TRANSFORMATION doesn't mean you have to throw a wrench into the rest of your life!
Big change doesn't have to take a lot of time.
This program is flexible. I'm offering you the most transformational pieces of my work with couples in this one program. I usually educate clients on these aspects of personal and relational well-being over many sessions, but you have the chance to participate from the comfort of your own home. No commuting. No babysitters.
In the 10-week course you'll participate in 8 Training Modules – which will be in the form of video, audio, and downloadable files. Each training will include lots of great tools, education, and examples to help you apply this information immediately to your relationship.
You'll be given access to your training portal where new modules will be made available to you weekly. New content will be released on a schedule and can be participated in on your own time and with a schedule that works for you. Also – don't forget that you can download and access these materials for your whole lifetime!
QUESTIONS ARE ENCOURAGED...so is getting stuck. You'll have access to our growing top-secret Facebook community where I'll be uploading new content and trainings regularly and giving you As to your Qs for 6 months. If you have a question or a stuck spot just shoot me an email or post it within the group and it could be a topic I address in-depth in the vault of ever-growing content in this private forum.
This program is designed to allow you to do the work in a way that’s consistent, committed, but flexible.
It’s designed to give couples every little thing they need to get their relationships back on track again, and again, and again.
It’s a fast, comprehensive, and flexible way for you to go from “meh” relationships to getting your best friend back.
It feels especially impossible to imagine the joyful possibilities when you’re overwhelmed, mentally-drained, with a never-ending to-do list and this just feels like "one more thing I have to freakin’ figure out."
Where & How? I’m offering this program for YOU, yeah you…the frazzled one in the pajama pants. People who make a big and consistent commitment to work with me long-term get the biggest results. For couples this could be sessions together and individually for 3-6 months or more. Factor in kids, jobs, school, sports, workouts….the barrier for many getting the results they want is TIME.
But BIG TRANSFORMATION doesn't mean you have to throw a wrench into the rest of your life!
Big change doesn't have to take a lot of time.
This program is flexible. I'm offering you the most transformational pieces of my work with couples in this one program. I usually educate clients on these aspects of personal and relational well-being over many sessions, but you have the chance to participate from the comfort of your own home. No commuting. No babysitters.
In the 10-week course you'll participate in 8 Training Modules – which will be in the form of video, audio, and downloadable files. Each training will include lots of great tools, education, and examples to help you apply this information immediately to your relationship.
You'll be given access to your training portal where new modules will be made available to you weekly. New content will be released on a schedule and can be participated in on your own time and with a schedule that works for you. Also – don't forget that you can download and access these materials for your whole lifetime!
QUESTIONS ARE ENCOURAGED...so is getting stuck. You'll have access to our growing top-secret Facebook community where I'll be uploading new content and trainings regularly and giving you As to your Qs for 6 months. If you have a question or a stuck spot just shoot me an email or post it within the group and it could be a topic I address in-depth in the vault of ever-growing content in this private forum.
This program is designed to allow you to do the work in a way that’s consistent, committed, but flexible.
It’s designed to give couples every little thing they need to get their relationships back on track again, and again, and again.
It’s a fast, comprehensive, and flexible way for you to go from “meh” relationships to getting your best friend back.
What's Included?
The Online Course: Within this course you'll receive step-by-step in-depth training for busy couples within 8 Online Modules which include video, audio, and downloadable files. Below is a brief description of what's included in each module:
For a FREE TRAINING and more information about why each module is SO GREAT check the next session of my Strategies for Busy Couples Webinar. Over 1000 people signed up to watch. Emily attended and here's what she had to say....she's a yoga instructor in St. Louis and is pretty wise herself. And we're not even related!
The Online Course: Within this course you'll receive step-by-step in-depth training for busy couples within 8 Online Modules which include video, audio, and downloadable files. Below is a brief description of what's included in each module:
- Module 1 - Create Conditions for Freedom & Relationship Visioning Tool: Getting clear about shared goals for the partnership and personal goals is the first step in taking your relationship and life to the next level. This HUGE module (2-hour total completion time) will have you digging deep into the nooks and crannies of your relationship and will give you the tools and support to leave with next best steps for upcoming months. AND...you get THIS ENTIRE MODULE by signing up for the $2 1-Week Trial. Cancel anytime during week one and you won't be billed again.
- Module 2 - You-nique Living and Loving: We often partner with people who have inherently different personality types and loving styles. When not deeply understood, later in the relationship these differences can be taken personally and the source for so much misperception, miscommunication, hurt, anger, and resentment. In this module we'll discover ways of living and loving meant for who you truly are...not who you should be. We'll also get clear on each other's personality types, strengths, loving styles, and ways that these might be playing out in your relationship.
- Module 3 - Feelings: Your New BFFs and GPS: Communicating negative feelings can be a source of discomfort for many. But in avoiding discomfort is also missed opportunities for growth and emotional connection and intimacy. Most of us have been taught to ignore how we feel and generally distrust our feelings in general....believing, "There must be something wrong with me..." and so we sweep our feelings under the rug: avoiding the short-term discomfort while inviting in long-term resentment. Your relationshp is calling you to grow, and I'll give you practical and actionable ways to start moving through your relationship and life in a way that is a whole lot less draining and a whole lot more fulfilling.
- Module 4 - Emotional Intent Clarity Tool: The FIRST and most overlooked step in clear communication is to clearly understand your own emotional intent and the intent of the person with whom you're interacting. Not being able to communicate about intent will keep you in the cycle of having the same, ridiculous arguments on repeat. This tool will allow you to deep-dive under the surface of the behaviors you don't like (in yourself or others) and get to the roots of the problems in your relationship.
- Module 5 - Ninja-like Communication Skills: Learning and implementing just one of these communication skills is proven to significantly improve scores on measures of relationship satisfaction and we cover EIGHT. Also included is an in-depth training on the Conflict Map Tool. People often ask me, "What do I do next?" or "What should I say next?" when I'm helping them through tough conversations; they know that what's habitual hasn't been beneficial. Breaking old relational habits and coming up with the next best step is about thinking about tough conversations in a WHOLE NEW WAY, and the Conflict Map and Training help you do just that. I have clients who hang their Conflict Map on their fridge and reference it when tough conversations arise. I'm a visual learner, and while conflicts aren't always linear, this map and training give you a clear path through any tough conversation.
- Module 6 - Demystifying Sex Drive / Keeping the Spark Alive (nope...I won't just tell you to *do it* more): Differences in drive and the meanings we attach to these differences can slowly poison the relationship, even further disintegrate the drive of the lower-drive person, and decrease emotional intimacy. Even hugs and back rubs can start to feel slimy. This topic is HIGHLY misunderstood. I have yet to lead a workshop or talk on the subject and have a man or woman say, "Oh yeah....I knew all that already".... even in a room full of medical doctors. I hope you leave this module with more compassion and understanding of yourself and your partner.
- Module 7 - Radical Happiness Responsibility: In this module we'll cover empowering, healthy, and research-based ways to take responsibility for your own happiness. And, most-importantly, we won't just be covering MINDSET (which is a huge piece), but I'll also be giving you ways to wrap your mouth around boundaries and how to speak YOUR unarguable truth.
- Module 8 - Cultivating Abundance / Division of Labor: Why is money an easy thing to fight about? Because it's an emotion-laden subject. I'll outline several concrete ways to create habits that will reduce stress and energy drains around the subject of your finances.
For a FREE TRAINING and more information about why each module is SO GREAT check the next session of my Strategies for Busy Couples Webinar. Over 1000 people signed up to watch. Emily attended and here's what she had to say....she's a yoga instructor in St. Louis and is pretty wise herself. And we're not even related!
You'll Also Get:
Group Q&A Calls: Monthly group calls where I'll cover EVEN MORE information and you'll get a chance to ask me questions about your specific-to-you stuck spots.
Access to Our Supportive Secret Facebook Group: You'll get access to the exclusive Facebook group for 6 months where new valuable trainings, tips, and strategies for creating your best relationships will be posted every week. We'll also be completing exercises here, reporting on your wins, getting feedback, and I'll be checking in to support you with As to your Qs along the way.
Some of the Tools Included:
Great 8 Communication Skills: Have a partner that shuts-down or blows-up at the first inkling there might be a disagreement? You'll receive training on 8 of the most relationship-changing communication skills with real life examples. Practicing just ONE of these skills in your relationship has been shown to significantly increase relationship satisfaction. Nuf said.
Interaction Clarity Tool: Here’s the real deal. You could learn EVERY communication skill under the sun, know them forwards and backwards, semantically say every single word correctly and in the exact order you’re supposed to, but if your intent is ‘off’ it has the power to ruin the most perfectly worded communication, cause irritation, anger and defensiveness in the listener and send your interaction straight down the drain. It's what has driven me the most crazy in my close relationships. INTENT is a POWERFUL thing.
Not fully understanding and being able to communicate about different intents is at the core of every argument you have. This one tool will give you really clear ways to break down the most complicated of conflicts into 4 different categories. Ever have NO CLUE why you're getting the reactions you're getting in your closest relationships? Once you learn to identify the intents involved in an interaction the reasons for pain, fear, anger, or hurt feelings becomes clear...and so do your next best steps. Eliminate feeling like you can't win with this one tool.
Conflict Map and Training: Ever feel like you need a map to get out of conflict? Well now you'll have one. This map took so much brain-power to make, it hurt. There are ways to move through conflict that in the short-run will feel better, but in the long-run will mean more conflict. When you're avoiding, shutting down, or sweeping your own wants and needs under the rug to keep from fighting your chances for conflict in the future increase. The longer these practices are in place, the more is under your relationship rug. Use this map to thoroughly resolve issues for good.
BONUS DISCOUNT: $50 OFF 2, 1-Hour Sessions If Needed ($100 value): This program was designed to give you a structured path to follow in addressing key skills, strategies, and mindsets shown to significantly improve relatoinship satisfaction as well as address common personal and relational sore spots than can be underlying never-ending bickering and growing resentment. I try not to leave any relationship stone unturned. I know this has the potential to unearth some tough stuff. Because of this I'd like to offer you 2 laser-focused coaching sessions by Skype or in-person at a -$50 reduced rate ($100/hour) to get you through your stuck spots fast.
Group Q&A Calls: Monthly group calls where I'll cover EVEN MORE information and you'll get a chance to ask me questions about your specific-to-you stuck spots.
Access to Our Supportive Secret Facebook Group: You'll get access to the exclusive Facebook group for 6 months where new valuable trainings, tips, and strategies for creating your best relationships will be posted every week. We'll also be completing exercises here, reporting on your wins, getting feedback, and I'll be checking in to support you with As to your Qs along the way.
Some of the Tools Included:
Great 8 Communication Skills: Have a partner that shuts-down or blows-up at the first inkling there might be a disagreement? You'll receive training on 8 of the most relationship-changing communication skills with real life examples. Practicing just ONE of these skills in your relationship has been shown to significantly increase relationship satisfaction. Nuf said.
Interaction Clarity Tool: Here’s the real deal. You could learn EVERY communication skill under the sun, know them forwards and backwards, semantically say every single word correctly and in the exact order you’re supposed to, but if your intent is ‘off’ it has the power to ruin the most perfectly worded communication, cause irritation, anger and defensiveness in the listener and send your interaction straight down the drain. It's what has driven me the most crazy in my close relationships. INTENT is a POWERFUL thing.
Not fully understanding and being able to communicate about different intents is at the core of every argument you have. This one tool will give you really clear ways to break down the most complicated of conflicts into 4 different categories. Ever have NO CLUE why you're getting the reactions you're getting in your closest relationships? Once you learn to identify the intents involved in an interaction the reasons for pain, fear, anger, or hurt feelings becomes clear...and so do your next best steps. Eliminate feeling like you can't win with this one tool.
Conflict Map and Training: Ever feel like you need a map to get out of conflict? Well now you'll have one. This map took so much brain-power to make, it hurt. There are ways to move through conflict that in the short-run will feel better, but in the long-run will mean more conflict. When you're avoiding, shutting down, or sweeping your own wants and needs under the rug to keep from fighting your chances for conflict in the future increase. The longer these practices are in place, the more is under your relationship rug. Use this map to thoroughly resolve issues for good.
BONUS DISCOUNT: $50 OFF 2, 1-Hour Sessions If Needed ($100 value): This program was designed to give you a structured path to follow in addressing key skills, strategies, and mindsets shown to significantly improve relatoinship satisfaction as well as address common personal and relational sore spots than can be underlying never-ending bickering and growing resentment. I try not to leave any relationship stone unturned. I know this has the potential to unearth some tough stuff. Because of this I'd like to offer you 2 laser-focused coaching sessions by Skype or in-person at a -$50 reduced rate ($100/hour) to get you through your stuck spots fast.
Why Mika?
Maybe we haven't non-virtually met. If so, you should have a healthy dose of skepticism. I mean...I'm asking to be a part of THE most important relationship in your life.
So here's a little more about me: I am a Licensed Professional Counselor in the state of Missouri with degrees in Psychology and Marriage and Family Therapy, a Nationally Board Certified Counselor, a Relationship Coach, and have taught at the master's level at universities in the St. Louis area for the last 8 years. I was a Graduate-Level Advisor at Lindenwood University for 2 years and supervised graduate counselors-in-training at the University of Missouri for 2 years, and also was the Editorial Assistant for The Career Develpment Quarterly (a professional research journal published by the American Counseling Association) working closely with and trained by Dr. Mark Pope (past president of the Amercian Counseling Association).
All of these things you could surely fact check....except maybe the editorial assistant part, so here's a picture:
So here's a little more about me: I am a Licensed Professional Counselor in the state of Missouri with degrees in Psychology and Marriage and Family Therapy, a Nationally Board Certified Counselor, a Relationship Coach, and have taught at the master's level at universities in the St. Louis area for the last 8 years. I was a Graduate-Level Advisor at Lindenwood University for 2 years and supervised graduate counselors-in-training at the University of Missouri for 2 years, and also was the Editorial Assistant for The Career Develpment Quarterly (a professional research journal published by the American Counseling Association) working closely with and trained by Dr. Mark Pope (past president of the Amercian Counseling Association).
All of these things you could surely fact check....except maybe the editorial assistant part, so here's a picture:
Probably more familiar, but less scholarly...I am also a Relationship Contributor for Thrive Global and have been published in The Huffington Post.
Listen, I don't want to be your guru. My goal with this program is to cover THE most impactful strategies, tools, and mindsets that I have used to change my own relationships and the most transformational pieces of my work that have helped 1000s of people and couples change theirs.
If there are things that I say in this program that resonate with you, GREAT! Hopefully there are lots of those things. If there are things presented that feel like they don't fit for you, as I say to my clients in session, "Just leave them on the floor."
I am clear there is no one-size-fits-all approach. I believe every highly-functioning, emotionally-well relationship looks different, but what's at the core is the ability to be true to you (this is why I dedicate an ENTIRE module to this), and the willingness to try new things. In this program I offer options for moving forward based on where you are now, your personality type, and the ways you show and feel love. You'll know what feels right for you.
Listen, I don't want to be your guru. My goal with this program is to cover THE most impactful strategies, tools, and mindsets that I have used to change my own relationships and the most transformational pieces of my work that have helped 1000s of people and couples change theirs.
If there are things that I say in this program that resonate with you, GREAT! Hopefully there are lots of those things. If there are things presented that feel like they don't fit for you, as I say to my clients in session, "Just leave them on the floor."
I am clear there is no one-size-fits-all approach. I believe every highly-functioning, emotionally-well relationship looks different, but what's at the core is the ability to be true to you (this is why I dedicate an ENTIRE module to this), and the willingness to try new things. In this program I offer options for moving forward based on where you are now, your personality type, and the ways you show and feel love. You'll know what feels right for you.
What we won't do.
Hold virtual hands and sing Kumbaya, group therapy, or mandated sharing. While I do hope the group lends itself to feeling comfortable in sharing of your relationship struggles, you are free to share as much or as little as you'd like.
The program is meant to be informational and educational. While results can be therapeutic, this will be based on your engagement and involvement in the class and your commitment level to change once the course is over.
Get kinky. I'll be educating on the ins and outs of sex drive and how men and women are ridiculously different. We will not be covering mechanics. Sorry to disappoint.
Yippee! What happy participants are saying.
"I'm raving to all my friends about it!"
Before the 3rd Module. "Can't wait! There has already been THOUSANDS of dollars worth of therapy in this course."
"SO much great information."
"I'm catching myself and pausing before I say things and trying to do it in a new way."
"It's like you're in my head!"
"I NEVER thought about it [men's sex drive] that way."
"We don't feel so alone."
"When's Love Sex Kids #2 coming out? Seriously, let us know! We want more!"
As a Nationally Board Certified Licensed Professional Counselor I cannot share participant's identies. It even goes against my ethics code to ASK clients for a testimonial. However, the post below had a public privacy setting in a public forum. As you can see...I take confidentiality REALLY seriously.
The program is meant to be informational and educational. While results can be therapeutic, this will be based on your engagement and involvement in the class and your commitment level to change once the course is over.
Get kinky. I'll be educating on the ins and outs of sex drive and how men and women are ridiculously different. We will not be covering mechanics. Sorry to disappoint.
Yippee! What happy participants are saying.
"I'm raving to all my friends about it!"
Before the 3rd Module. "Can't wait! There has already been THOUSANDS of dollars worth of therapy in this course."
"SO much great information."
"I'm catching myself and pausing before I say things and trying to do it in a new way."
"It's like you're in my head!"
"I NEVER thought about it [men's sex drive] that way."
"We don't feel so alone."
"When's Love Sex Kids #2 coming out? Seriously, let us know! We want more!"
As a Nationally Board Certified Licensed Professional Counselor I cannot share participant's identies. It even goes against my ethics code to ASK clients for a testimonial. However, the post below had a public privacy setting in a public forum. As you can see...I take confidentiality REALLY seriously.
Click here to see what happy clients are saying :)
Who is it for?
This course might be for you if you'd like to take your relationship to the next level, if you feel like you've been in a slump, or would just like to get back to a place where your relationship feels better.
Who is it not for?
If the choice is between consulting a divorce lawyer or this course, this course is not for you. Your relationship may deserve some 1-on-2 attention in the form of counseling or mediation. If you are not sure if this course is for you schedule a call with me or shoot me an email and we can discuss your options. I want you to be clear about what will work best for you.
Who is it for?
This course might be for you if you'd like to take your relationship to the next level, if you feel like you've been in a slump, or would just like to get back to a place where your relationship feels better.
Who is it not for?
If the choice is between consulting a divorce lawyer or this course, this course is not for you. Your relationship may deserve some 1-on-2 attention in the form of counseling or mediation. If you are not sure if this course is for you schedule a call with me or shoot me an email and we can discuss your options. I want you to be clear about what will work best for you.
FAQs:
Can I do the program alone?
Absolutely! I've had several people take the course without their partner and still are able to create change in their marraige. When I work with couples I tell them that from here on out your only problem, project, and solutuion is YOU. Cleaning up your part of the problems in your relationship is the only thing you have control over and partner participation isn't necessary for this to occur.
will parenting solutions be covered in the love, Sex, kids course?
Kids tend to magnify issues already present in the relationship while decreasing time to sufficiently deal with the issues. The course works to help busy couples slice through conflict, resentment, and hard conversations more efficiently and increase emotional intimacy...whether kids are in the picture or not. The course is parent-focused, but childless couple-friendly. While no explicit parenting information is reviewed, I use these skills, strategies, and mindsets in my relationships with my kids as well. Many of the skills for healthy relationships with your spouse are the same skills necessary for healthy relationships with your children.
sooooooo, how long will we have access to the content?
You'll have access to your online course portal for 20 weeks and the secret Facebook community for 6 months. However, you can download the content and rework the program for as long as you both shall live.
if we both do the course, should we do the modules together?
I want you to fit this program into your life in any way you can (while driving to work, while walking the dog, while cleaning...). I know doing the modules together is not ideal for most people. If partners do the Modules separately I suggest setting up a weekly 30-minute meeting with each other to discuss the material.