MOMunication Workshop Tour
If you have ever uttered the words, "Why do I have to tell you what to do?! Why can't you just KNOW???!!!!" in your relationship
...this workshop is for you.
MORE LOCATION INFO:
9/20 - St. Louis Working Moms, 4-6pm - Classroom in RISE Collaborative Workspace, Suite 203
9/27 - Nashville - TBA
11/1 - Phoenix - TBA
11/5 - Los Angeles - TBA
11/8 - New York - TBA
11/10 - Plymouth, MI - TBA
Women, and moms especially, we face some specific-to-us issues, expectations, and cultural beliefs that insidiously persuade us to get in the way of our own happiness and success.
Not sure what I'm talking about? Real quick, ask your working husband if he's ever been asked any version of, "How do you balance it all?"
Men don't get asked this question because there's an underlying cultural belief that they don't have to balance parenthood with working (or anything else). It's ok for them to have other priorities. No judgment.
If you feel crazy, you're probably feeling this all exactly right. You live in a time and culture in the midst of a huge shift and the mixed messages are EXTRA (as my 11-year-old would say).
AND we also hold the power to create the change, but we have to shift first. I believe this change comes through clear and super-conscious communication with ourselves and others.
"We are the ones we've been waiting for." -Abby Wombach
I've heard it from the mouths of 1000s of women in my practice....I've even uttered this phrase myself within my own marriage. SO MANY of us complain about it, so very few of us know what to do to create lasting results. Also, maybe the following apply:
- You're tired of repeating yourself, feeling disregarded, like you're not a priority, and like you don't matter.
- You're not sure how you could be any more clear.
- Maybe you're drowning in your to-do list and feel like it "must be nice" your husband gets to have fun with the kids.
- Your husband's priorities REALLY confuse you.
- You spend half your time wanting to scratch your partner's eyes out and the other half of the time wondering what's wrong with you.
- Your sex drive might be dwindling if existent at all.
- You feel like you're not doing anything well.
- You aren't sure who you are anymore...or what you even want and need to be happy.
Sheryl Sandberg said in a recent interview, "I truly believe that the single most important career decision that a woman makes is whether she will have a life partner and who that partner is."
I really disagree. I believe the single most important life decision that a woman can make is becoming intimately aware of the beliefs she holds about herself and the world so that she can consciously choose her roles from a place of honoring herself and others.
This DOES NOT just land in your lap with the good luck in finding a great partner. Even GREAT and WELL-MEANING partners will treat you the way you treat you.
Let's start teaching people how to treat us, okay?
In a group of moms I admitted ignorance, "Oh, I don't know. My husband's in charge of all kids' emails this year," in reference to a school field trip question. "WAIT. HOW. DID YOU DO. THAT?" Four gaping-mouthed women stared back at me in the midst of the Kindergarten Moms' Night Out.