She didn’t think they would make it. She confessed in our individual session she was ready to be done. They had been icy and barely speaking for months.
Not being sure in your relationship is an energy drain and impacts every other part of your life. It can be an expensive problem to have.
After meeting with them a few times I suggested an online program (the Conflict Sucks Course) I have that costs less than the first session with me.
So often what people perceive as *compatibility issues* or *there’s something wrong with him* issues my brain X-rays and can clearly see the communication issues underneath.
Self-worth issues that could be cleared up by assuming less and checking things out more, family of origin issues and patterns people are unconsciously dragging around like 500 lb weights that could be unraveled with some awareness and talking about that lens you’re seeing things through (or being seen through), feelings of not mattering or not being a priority that could vanish by making yourself one and clearly stating needs and wants with boundaries <— all communication.
So...years ago, after many live workshops and 1000s of counseling sessions I took the things that I tend to say on repeat and put them into an online course for the masses that this couple participated in. It might save you from hours of extensive therapy (like it may have these people), it might be a really great place to start before you head to therapy, and it will definitely have you thinking about conflict and communication differently even if you’re in a not-so-bad place.
This is available to EVERYBODY: not just my clients. Link in bio @mikaross or online at www.mikaross.com/conflict-online
PS - Try my FREE Training for Busy Couples first :) www.mikaross.com/training