I love changing people's minds about therapy. Believe it or not, I used to be pretty anti-therapy. When I was in middle school and my parents were divorcing my mom asked me if I wanted to go see a counselor. I'm sure my look of disgust said it all and the "NOOOoooooOOOO!!!" was completely unnecessary.
That sounded just awful. Someone analyzing me?? Judging me? I was already doing enough of that myself. No, thank you.
And then I met a friend in high school whose mother was a therapist. She wasn't a counselor in my mind...she was just really easy to talk to, non-judgmental, and would ask me questions about my family that others wouldn't touch with a 10-foot pole. She also didn't make that icky pity face when I told the reason for moving to town was my parents' divorce. She just felt good. She was just Linda.
One of my goals for the RELATABLES video series is for you to get to see that all therapists aren't scary, that some of us truly love our job, and we're not all delighting in having the power of being your expert...we'd much prefer to help you find your own answers and power.
AND NO!! It's not FUN to get in front of a camera every week. BLECH! I do it because I know I can help more people by not hiding in my office. I realized not that long ago that a lot of the good, juicy stuff in life is outside of my comfort zone.
I realize I cannot be a good fit for everyone, I am not a jar of Nutella, but I do this for those of you who resonate with my words or the way I think about things. I do this for those of you who deserve happier relationships, for those of you who wonder if you're crazy, or defective, or broken, but are too scared to reach out for big support.
RELATABLES are also about giving you practical and actionable strategies to start creating relationships you LOVE. They're not just for couples...strange thing is, I see everything as a relationship: your relationship with your partner, your relationship with yourself, your relationship with your friends, your relationship with the relationship with your friends (that one might hurt your brain), your relationship with God/religion/spirituality/The Universe/The Earth, your relationship with your business....I could go on.
In this episode I had a request from Tamara who says she and her husband communicate quite a bit, but she wanted more info on the HOWs of effective communication to keep conversations from escalating or from sweeping issues under the rug. Watch this episode to hear me talk about one of the biggest miscommunications I see in couples that's one of the easiest to clean up.
Yes, I'm driving...yes, I'm sideways because my car phone holder only holds the phone this way...yes, I can talk and drive at the same time....no, I did not set the phone/camera up in the holder while driving......and, yes, my son video-bombed the whole time!
PSSSTT! You can help me change people's minds about therapy by liking, sharing, or tweeting this post! You don't have to have participated in therapy to show your support. Let your therapy-using friends know you think asking for support and reaching out for connection is COURAGEOUS!