Here are some ways to express anger with your words and a neutral tone that won't land you in an orange jumpsuit - expressing anger vs. acting out in anger:
-I'm getting angry and need to walk away.
-I'm getting defensive.
-I'm getting defensive and need you to say that in another way. [...my face is usually squished when I say this one]
-[face squished...breathing] Can you say that in another way?
-I want to hurt your feelings.
-I want to teach you a lesson right now.
-I want to scratch your eyes out.
-I want to physically abuse you...like if I knew there would be no consequences, and that I would not feel guilty about it, and that it wouldn't make things worse, and I knew I could erase your memory of it, and that I wouldn't end up in an orange jumpsuit I might really hurt you...SO, I'm going to walk around Michael's and look at craft supplies for an undetermined amount of time until I don't feel that way anymore...because I care about the well-being of our relationship.
Expressing anger can lead to increased emotional intimacy. Acting out in anger (with your tone, words, or actions) can create a growing crevasse in the emotional intimacy department of your relationship. #OITNB #OrangeIsNotYourColor #marriage #relationship #getyourhappyback
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