The best thing you can do for your kids is keep yourself happy.

"The best thing you can do for your kids is keep yourself happy."

When I first heard this, I was on my mentor's couch. I had a 5-month-old, and that morning, the first thing I did was cry. 

I was SO exhausted.

I could not, for the life of me, figure out how to take care of ME and a baby at the same time.

I was overwhelmed. I was underweight. I was full of resentment toward my husband.

I felt like he was a helpful assistant in this new parenting journey, but not a reliable copilot. He was a champ at taking orders, but it seemed like it was up to me to figure all this out. 

I lost it one night when he asked, “Is tonight bath night?”

I didn't want to be the knower of all the things. 

The best thing you can do for your kids is keep yourself happy.

This made my brain do a pretzel. Growing up with a deeply unhappy mom, I knew this, in my gut, to be true. But HOW? 

To say I've put a lot of thought into this would be an understatement. 

I've heard thousands of women say some version of, “WHY DO I HAVE TO TELL YOU WHAT TO DO, WHY CAN'T YOU JUST KNOW?” in my practice, only to chat with the "inconsiderate nincompoop” husband to find out he's neither of these things. 

“Just give me a list and I'll do it! I'm not a mindreader!"

We seem to slide into these roles so unconsciously; the nagging wife and the idiot husband…despite being well-intentioned and intelligent people (some of us even with degrees in Marriage and Family Counseling). 

There are so many invisible things getting in the way of a successful marriage and family.

It also…doesn't have to be this way. Copiloting is possible.

This driver/passenger dynamic, though, is EASY to slide into…and everyone plays a part. 

When I speak to just groups of women and moms, the conversation is different, deeper…you're hungry for answers. You're getting the raw end of this deal, but the long-term effects don't serve your entire family. 

You, unfortunately, are the seer of the imbalance of the load - mental and otherwise, because you feel it the most.

You're not crazy. You should be feeling this way. This is figureoutable.

Your resentment is an emergent alarm that something needs to change.

I created the wellMAMA Workshop for moms just like you—smart, loving, exhausted women who are tired of feeling like a resentful battery that needs recharging. It's the same workshop we sell out live, but this year we are offering it for FREE 🫨

Catch the replay of the LIVE workshop where we’ll laugh, maybe cry, and definitely get real about what’s draining you—and how to shift it. Spoiler alert…it's not all on you. AND being a change agent doesn't necessarily mean doing more.

You’ll walk away feeling lighter, more empowered, and with a clearer understanding of what you need (and how to get it sustainably without repeating yourself endlessly or ending up in an orange jumpsuit about it). And if you want to keep going, you’ll have the option to join six weeks of live coaching and community support—details are on the site.

This isn’t a parenting workshop. It’s a you workshop. Because the best thing we can do for our kids is to keep ourselves WELL.

P.S. - It doesn't have to be this way. If this isn't how you want your daughter to feel 30ish years from now, join us. We'll change it together :) Also, I did a podcast episode on this subject that might blow your mind 🤯